Anxiety is something I have lived with for the best part of a decade.
It used to prevent me from going out, prevent me from socialising with friends and family, prevent me from going on holiday, going to work, going to the gym, and even prevent me from going to the local shop for a pint of milk.
But as soon as I stopped fighting against it and start working with it, I realised that although it can be really testing at times, there are actually quite a few positive aspects and things that I like about having anxiety… So I’ve written them down in this blog for anybody who might be struggling at the moment…
Hopefully it might even shine some light at the end of the tunnel for you…
1. It puts things in perspective
When you spend most of your life over analysing things, you tend to appreciate the little things in life a lot more. The small wins, every single day. You learn to realise that it’s the little things that sometimes make the biggest impact. And you learn, through time, to enjoy each moment as it comes and not to live too far in the future.
2. Social Occasions feel amazing
Okay well, not all the time. But for the ones that I actually GO to, I normally end up having a much better time than the average person. I appreciate them more, because I know that it’s not always going to be possible for me to get to them. The ones I do get to, I have a brilliant time. I am grateful for that!
3. I’m excellent at planning ahead
I am absolutely fantastic at planning. Partly due to anxiety, partly due to the fact that I just love planning things! Especially travelling, trips abroad and holidays. I enjoy getting everything organised and booked and sorted. This is especially useful when I’m planning events for groups of friends or family. My anxiety means that I have everything planned in advance, to a T. Then I get pissed off if someone deviates from myplan. Hehehe. Can’t win them all!
4. I can sense other people’s emotions
I have a heightened sense of other people’s thoughts and feelings. Aside from being slightly psychic and extremely empathetic, I actually find it very easy to read other people’s moods and can quickly act to help them accordingly – often times I can predict what people need. Which is awesome.
5. I have a strong but small social circle
and that’s the way I like it. I have found, through having anxiety, that the people in my life are ones I can really trust, meaning that I have an amazing circle around me. I am very choosy about who I let into my life
(because of my anxiety, and the fact that it is difficult to understand) I think this is a positive thing because I know I am always surrounded by people I can really trust.
6. It makes me deliberately compete with myself
I sometimes like to ‘test’ my anxiety to see how far I can take it… This has led me to find out just how many things I can actually do and how far I can push myself in certain situations. It actually makes me feel strong and resilient. Especially when it comes to exercising.
7. I am a good listener
Having anxiety means that I know how it feels to feel pretty crap. Having over analysed and pretty much
prepared for every eventuality that could ever occur (in my head), I think I am a pretty good listener to other people’s problems and I give good advice.
If this helps just one person, my job here is done.
If you would like to write to me or have a chat, please get in touch!